Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted just the way we are.Our hearts' desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say,they still love us.They acc

Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted just the way we are.Our hearts' desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say,they still love us.They acc
Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted just the way we are.
Our hearts' desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even
if others disagree with what we do or say,they still love us.They accept us.They appreciate our contributions to the world.While it would be wonderful to have these types
of relationships with all people,we know that that's hard to do.We can,however,have them with some others,but only when we first have them with ourselves-and,ironically,this is often the hardest relationship of all.
One of the reasons many of us find it hard to love ourselves is because we do not realize that we are already loved in the most divine way.God loves us,totally and unconditionally.
It's hard for many of us to believe this fact because we know how imperfect we are,and we believe we have to be perfect before God will love us.The truth is that God's love makes us perfect,even with our imperfections.By knowing this truth intellectually and believing it spiritually,we not only love ourselves more; we love others more as well.
Do you love yourself?You may think you do,but do you really?There's only one way to find out-by taking a closer look at what you think,say,and do.You may not like some of what you find,but if you're serious about really loving yourself,you can use this insight to do some positive inner work.
Here are three ways I've found for gaining greater personal insight for deeper love.
Listen to your words and listen even more closely to your thoughts.Why?Because your words and your thoughts will determine your actions.One of the things that has helped me to listen to my thoughts has been to keep a journal.It is not necessary for you to write in it everyday,but it helps to record various insights you gain as you go about living your life.Instead of using a big notebook,you might use a small note pad that you can keep in your purse or pocket for easy access to record your thoughts as they occur to you.(I've found that if I don't immediately write down ideas and insights as they come,it's hard to remember them later,at least with the same degree of clarity.) Whichever method you choose,what's most important is that you write your thoughts down.It will help you know what's in your heart.
Be honest with yourself by paying attention to your actions.Actions speak louder than words,and they always tell the truth.What do your actions say about you?If you say you
love your job,but your actions say otherwise,which do you think is more true - your words or your actions?On the other hand,if you say you're not good at a certain job,but your
actions say otherwise,that's also important.What do you do with this insight?You can use it to make more beneficial choices in your life.By being honest with yourself based on your previous actions,your actions moving forward will be based on truth instead of just what you tell yourself.

Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted just the way we are.Our hearts' desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say,they still love us.They acc
我们中的大部分人都渴望一段能让我们只因为我们原本的样子而被爱和接受的感情.
我们的心是在一段即使别人不赞成我们的所做所为,但还依然爱着我们的感情中渴望付出和得到爱.他们接受我们.他们感激我们对这个世界的贡献.虽然和大家有这种关系的感觉非常好,但我们也知道这样做很难.然而,我们可以和别人保持这种关系,但首先我们要先在自己身上做到,而且讽刺的是,这往往是最难把握的一种关系.
我们中的许多人觉得很难去爱自己的其中一个原因是我们没有意识到我们已经在被一种最神圣的方式爱着了.上帝爱着我们,完完全全而且毫无条件地爱着.
许多人很难相信这个事实,因为我们知道我们有多么的不完美,而且我们相信只有变得完美后上帝才会来爱我们.但事实是上帝的爱已让我们完美,即使是有着瑕疵的.通过理智地理解这个事实并在精神上相信这一点,我们不但会更爱自己,也会更爱别人.
你爱你自己吗?你也许是这么认为的,但你真的这么想吗?只有一种方法来判断——通过更仔细地观察你的想法,说的话和做的事.你也许并不喜欢你发现的一些事,但如果你对于热爱自己这件事很认真,你就能利用你的洞察力来让自己的内心多些正能量.
这里有我找到的三种让你能更爱自己而获得更好个人领悟的方法.
聆听自己的话语并更仔细地聆听自己的想法.为什么?因为你的话和想法会决定你的行为.帮助过我聆听自己想法的其中一件事就是保持记日记的习惯.你没必要每天都写下来,但它能帮你记录下你生活中各种各样的领悟.不要用一本大的笔记本,你可以用一本小的便条本,这样你就可以把它放在钱包或口袋里,也就能方便的记录下你的想到的事.（我发现如果刚想到的领悟不马上记下来就很容易忘记,至少没那么清楚.）无论你用什么方法,最重要的是写下你的想法.它会帮助你了解你的内心世界.
通过注意自己的行为举止来和自己坦诚相待.行为比语言更有效,而且它们从不说谎.你的行为告诉你什么?如果你说你热爱你的工作,但你的行为却恰恰相反,你认为哪个更真实,是你的话还是你的行为?另一方面,如果你说你不擅长某样工作,但你的行为却恰恰相反,那也很重要.你会用你的领悟做些什么?你可以用它在人生中做出一些更有益的选择.通过以过往所做的为基础来对自己诚实,你继续向前的行为将会以事实为基础而不是仅仅你所告诉自己的.

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