英语翻译韦政通说：“在所有的爱中,最强烈,最令人困惑,也是最缺乏稳定性的就是性爱.”（韦政通.中国的智慧[M].长春:吉林文史出版社,1988.250.）所以建立在性爱基础上的婚姻总是包含着“

英语翻译韦政通说：“在所有的爱中,最强烈,最令人困惑,也是最缺乏稳定性的就是性爱.”（韦政通.中国的智慧[M].长春:吉林文史出版社,1988.250.）所以建立在性爱基础上的婚姻总是包含着“
英语翻译
韦政通说：“在所有的爱中,最强烈,最令人困惑,也是最缺乏稳定性的就是性爱.”（韦政通.中国的智慧[M].长春:吉林文史出版社,1988.250.）所以建立在性爱基础上的婚姻总是包含着“隐伏的危机”.而人的本性中又有喜新厌旧的倾向,因为加重了建立在性爱上的婚姻的不稳定性.当作为婚姻基础的性爱消失了,那婚姻自然也没有存在的必要.在红楼梦中,以贾琏与尤二姐为代表；在傲慢与偏见中,以贝内特夫妇、莉迪亚和威克木为代表.
尤二姐和贾琏的婚姻是封建宗法制度下的畸形的婚姻.尤二姐是贾琏偷娶来的二房,这就为尤二姐后来的悲剧埋下了伏笔.贾琏喜欢尤二姐,不但因为她长的漂亮,更因为她的温柔和顺.贾琏是长期在正妻凤姐的压制下生活的,因此在逆反心理作用下,他爱上了尤二姐.而尤二姐是个软弱没有主见的人,吧贾琏当作了终身的依靠.因此二人开始时度过了一段幸福美好的时光,可怜好景不长,后来待贾琏收了秋桐时,“在二姐身上的心也渐渐淡了”.随着贾琏的移情别恋,再加上凤姐的阴谋陷阱和秋桐的落井下石,尤二姐这个弱女子最后只能吞金自尽.

英语翻译韦政通说：“在所有的爱中,最强烈,最令人困惑,也是最缺乏稳定性的就是性爱.”（韦政通.中国的智慧[M].长春:吉林文史出版社,1988.250.）所以建立在性爱基础上的婚姻总是包含着“
Wei Zheng Tong said:"In all the love,the most intense,most confusing and most lack of stability is the sex." (Weizheng-pass.China's intelligence [M].Changchun:Jilin Literature and History Press,1988.250.) So,built on the basis of marital sex has always contains "hidden dangers." Human nature and the grass is always greener and there were a tendency,because aggravated sex marriages are based on the instability.When the basis of sex as a marriage disappeared,then the marriage does not exist naturally necessary.In the Dream of Red Mansions in order to Jia Lian and Erjie as representatives; in Pride and Prejudice in order to Bennett,his wife,Lydia,and Wick represented by wood.
Erjie and Jia Lian's marriage under the feudal patriarchal clan system malformations marriage.Erjie is married to Jia Lian stole the two-bedroom,which was a tragedy for the Erjie foreshadowed.Jia Lian likes Erjie,not only because of her long beautiful,but also because of her gentle and amiable.Jia Lian is a long time being a wife living under the repression of Xifeng,and therefore the role of the rebellious,he fell in love with Erjie.The Erjie is weak and not strong-minded people,bar Jia Lian as a life-long depending on it.Therefore,when the two began to spend some happy good times,poor short-lived,and later to be collected Qiu Tong Jia Lian,the "heart in the second elder sister who has gradually faded." As Jia Lian's faithless,coupled with the conspiracy Xifeng traps and Qiu Tong's adding insult to injury,Erjie this Ruonv Zi end up committed suicide by swallowing gold