老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友

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老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友有一条忠告真是吸引住了我,但我也不得不说,这条忠告让我很懊恼.按照李先生的观点,外国人是你提高英语(论坛)口语水平的

老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友
老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友

老外直言:怎样与外国人交朋友
有一条忠告真是吸引住了我,但我也不得不说,这条忠告让我很懊恼.按照李先生的观点,外国人是你提高英语(论坛)口语水平的“机会”,只要见到外国人,你就应该上前和他们练英语.作者进一步说道,如果某个外国人不想回答你的问题,那他(她)就是一个粗鲁的人,是个你不屑与之交往的人.我认为这一忠告不仅不正确,还会给中国人和老外的关系带来潜在的危害.
像多数住在中国的老外一样,我知道生活在远离自己所熟悉的另一种文化当中,有时会感到多么孤独啊!但在多数情况下,我接受这种文化上的孤独,将其作为生活在这儿的一部分.说到底,我来这里是想了解中国人民和她的语言,如果我真的不喜欢这个地方,那我早就回国了.到目前为止,我在中国度过的时光非常有价值,我的中文水平提高了,了解了当今世界上最有吸引力的、发展最快的一个国家,一些中国人也成了我亲密的朋友.
但令人遗憾的是,我也撞见很多中国人,他们借******朋友但却只把我看成练口语的“机会”,有人从城里一直跟到我的学校宿舍,缠着我教他们英语 ,他或许真的想成为我的朋友,但我来自一个不可以通过纠缠与烦扰建立友谊的国度.对于很多西方人来说,友谊是与某人共度时光,他(她)的陪伴让你由衷地感到快乐.
在此,我并非建议你根本不与老外打交道.但是,我认为重要的一点是问一下自己的动机.如果你真的想与来自异国的人交朋友,谁会反对呢?但话说回来,如果你唯一的动机就是利用老外将其作为自己提高英语的一种手段,那么老外很可能看穿你——那他(她)肯定不想与你共处.
最后,我想建议,如果你真的想和一个老外交朋友,那么你就应该是因为真心喜欢这个人.我们都知道,真正的友谊是经受得住时间考验的.如果你与老外交朋友的唯一目的是提高英语水平,那你恐怕就不会有一个长久的老外朋友.
Just the other day, I was in a bookshop and spotted a volume entitled How to Make Friends with Foreigners by Li Yang of Crazy English fame.Naturally, as a foreigner who has been living in China for a year, I was curious to see what kind of advice a Chinese writer was giving on this matter.
One piece of advice really grabbed my attention and, I must say, made me feel quite annoyed.In Li's opinion, foreigners are an"opportunity" to improve your oral English; whenever you see a foreigner, you should practice speaking English to him/her. The writer goes on to say that if the foreigner doesn't want to answer your questions, then he/she is a rude person who you wouldn't want to spend time with anyway.I think this counsel is not only incorrect, but also potentially damaging to relations between Chinese and foreigners in China.
Like most other laowai living in China, I know how isolated one can sometimes feel living amid a culture far removed from our own familiar ways. However, most of the time this cultural isolation is something I simply accept as part of being here. I am, after all, here to learn about the people and the language of China and if I really hated this place then I would go home! So far my time in China has been very rewarding. I have improved my Chinese language skills, learnt about one of the most fascinating, swiftly developing countries in the world today and made some very close Chinese friends.
Unfortunately, I have also come across many Chinese people who view me purely as an"opportunity"to improve their oral English under the guise of making friends. I have experienced people following me home from town to my college flat and then harassing me to teach them English or practice English with them. I have had complete strangers thrusting articles, manuals and speeches in my face, insisting that I help them with the English translation. I have had people asking me to assist with immigration applications to other countries. All of these people have claimed at the time that what they chiefly wanted was to make friends with me. There was even one person at the weekly English Corner that I run at college who, after plying me with non-stop questions for half an hour, became very angry when I politely asked him to give other people a chance to speak. He puffed himself up like a peacock and informed me that he was simply trying to be my friend.
He may well have thought he was trying to be my friend, butswheresI come from you don't build friendships by pestering and badgering another person. Friendship for a lot of Westerners is about spending time with someone whose company you genuinely enjoy.It's not about opportunities or personal advantage.The Chinese friends I have made while living here have been genuine friends to me; we enjoy each other's company for its own sake.In this way, we've not only learnt a good deal about each other's culture but also about each other as individuals.
I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't approach foreigners at all. However, I do think that it's important to question your own motives. If you truly want to make friends with someone from a different country, who could possibly object?On the other hand, if your only motive is to "use" the foreigner as a way of improving your English, then it's quite likely that the foreigner will be able to see through you - and will definitely not want to spend time with you.